It rained all weekend here. Aside from a concert on Friday night, I didn't leave the apartment building. Luxury is napping and reading and movie-watching through a long weekend. And I think my body needed it--I couldn't stay awake through most of Saturday. Let's just agree to consider that muscle-repairing time well spent.
This morning's email was the one about the valley. I feel like I've been resentful and bitchy all along and am only now starting to feel normal and not so put upon, so it'll be interesting to see if I hit the traditional valley. What has been happening over the past week is me snapping at people who think I'm being too strict with myself. One friend is sincerely trying to be helpful--she thinks that this kind of strict diet can't possibly stick for good, and she's right. But she's not considering the things that I'm learning from it and the habits I'm gaining that will be transferable to the future.
Even more frustrating? I mention that I'm on a diet/exercise plan--and I've lost a substantial amount of weight, people--and no one comments that they can tell or that I'm looking better or whatever. Not even polite murmurs. Isn't that weird? I know I still look big, but I'm two freaking sizes smaller. Part of that might be masked by the fact that I got my suits altered (much cheaper and easier in HK than buying new clothes), so I'm wearing the same outfits and they still seem to fit. I'm not in this for the community approval, but since they're all commenting on my food choices, you'd think they'd manage to comment on the results if they saw them as well.
But I am pleased with my rate of progress and my husband mentions the changes he sees, and that's enough to keep me happy and motivated.
People are threatened by someone near them getting in shape. Brings up a lot of conflicting emotions.
ReplyDeleteThe diet you're on right now is NOT sustainable. By the end of the project you'll be eating a sustainable menu. This is a one time fat busting menu right now! You can tell them that.
People can be jerks! But YOU know how much you've changed and soon they will too.
The real kick in the pants is they won't give you much credit, they'll say things like "You're so lucky that you don't put on weight easily!"
Yeah, you know, I was commenting about the same exact thing to my husband recently. I think I look pretty different from when I started, but not so many people are noticing - or verbalizing if indeed they are noticing. I find it weird, too! But I think Patrick's right - it's not about you or me, it's more about them and their own insecurities.
ReplyDeleteI think you look GREAT, Kim! I can see a big difference from Day 1. You are glowing!
People are weird. They either don't say a word, or don't stop commenting and offering (often ill-informed) opinion.
ReplyDeleteI love rainy weekends. Perfect for chilling and hiding out.
When people see you day in and day out, they may not notice much of a change. But when you see people that you haven't seen in a while, they'll really notice! We went to New York last week and visited friends who hadn't seen me since April, and they ALL commented on how much I've changed. I bet the same will happen to you when you see somebody you haven't seen for a few months.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, you know that you're doing the right things for yourself. Tremendous changes already -- can't wait to see you at the end!
Haters. It's too bad people are hating instead of appreciating, later they'll probably secretly want to know what you did to get in shape. At least your husbands cool.
ReplyDeleteYou're looking fabulous. Your face has thinned out and, yes, you're glowing.
ReplyDeleteTry to be patient with people. I'm 2 1/2 weeks off and still being scrutinized. Trust me, people will start to notice and they will continue to notice. Hopefully, you'll get some compliments and positive feedback soon. Though, I feel like people are watching me and just waiting for me to start losing my muscle and gaining fat back. There will always be those that would rather see us fail to justify themselves. Let's prove them wrong.